I don't pretend to know anything about funerals - and given today's events, I hope I don't have to know anything about them anytime soon, but that's not looking too likely. But one can always hope. But in the way of control - that's more my area.... I figure it's the same for a lot of situations. Like OCD. It tends to flare up when life isn't going perfectly. If you can't control your life, often you feel like you have to control something - anything. So you'll control how clean a room is, or how many times you chew your food before you swallow it. Something that's trivial and easily controlled, unlike life.